Need to vent...

Young Spartan · 09-11-2004

Well, where should I start...

My girlfriend just recently got her period, when we thought she was pregnant and now it happened again and we have to wait another month.

A good friend just called and told me he needs to stay at my house for 2 weeks because hes getting kicked out of his parents house (hes 18) and hes got some people in his city after him (I'm one city over)

My grandpa has 2-3 months to live and is very sick. My mom is useless because shes mourning already.

My company just got 9 clients and the co-owner has a broken leg and arm from a car accident and is hospitalized. I have to go out of town AGAIN for Ivan, after I just got power tonight from Frances and now another hurricane is forming behind Ivan. My other staff member's computer overheated and blew up. I have one staff member capable of handling work like this and hes really busy.

Like I said above, I have to probably leave town and try to take care of my friend, take care of my girlfriend, run a company and deal with my grandpas death all while I'm out of town.

I have a sprained ankle.

My girlfriends best friend and my best friend who is 15 is having family trouble and may need somewhere to stay as well, or at least support.

I'm supposed to be starting a rap career soon, as I'm getting a manager, but thats just a last priority when it should be higher.

School will be starting soon and I'm behind from missing days from Frances.

It's just too much to handle.

Thanks for reading, I feel better.

P.S. I'm only 15 and all this is going on.

Order · 09-11-2004

Sounds to me you are doing way to much for a 15 year old. Remember, there is only one chance to be a kid, dont let it fly away. (I have recently entered that era of adulthood, it is not as fun as being a kid)..

Yuneek, all I can say is you will end up burning and crashing if you do too much, as you are, I would highly suggest clearing up your schedule, and stop trying to do everything.

Evdawg · 09-11-2004

Good luck with everything. Good luck with your company. Good luck with your rap career. And most of all good luck with your family and friends.

Lexiblue · 09-11-2004

Yuneek, I can see that you are being pulled in a lot of directions at once and I know how overwhelming that can be. Order's advice is a solid one, however when in the middle of it, I know that doesn't always feel possible.

Just a few things to remember:

1. You can't climb the mountain as a whole, you can however climb it one step at a time. Looking at everything you want to do at once is overwhelming, break it down into manageable steps and start with the one that needs your attention most.

2. Delegate when possible. Ask for extensions/extra time on work timelines. You might be able to kill yourself to get it done, but then what is left..recoop time is not worth it. It is better to provide yourself with that little extra space/breathing room; you will get more done, the quality of work will be better and your sanity will be intact.

3. Get better birth control. You don't need the worry or a child. This is stress that can be easily avoided. Your relationship would be much better for it.

4. If multiple friends move in for a few weeks, all the better. They can help provide support for one another, and you can draw strength from them. (Support is not a one way street.) Ask them for help as well. It will get their mind off their problems and make them feel good that they can do something for you.

Lastly, I am really sorry to hear about your grandpa. The only thing you can do there, is express the feelings of love you have for him to him. You have been given a gift disguised in a dirty package (not pretty, but there it is just the same), you have a chance to tell him everything you have ever wanted to say. Most people don't get a chance to do this nor to say goodbye. Take this opportunity, and help your mom to do the same. You won't regret it.

Hang in there Yuneek. If you need support, you have it here.

Lexi

Evdawg · 09-12-2004

Wow lexiblue, that is really good advice.

Yusecki · 09-12-2004

My Grandpa died when I was 15 too, but it was a shock (all in one day and that). But my story isn't a good one, I went downhill a long way.

Young Spartan · 09-12-2004

Quote:

Originally Posted by Yusecki

My Grandpa died when I was 15 too, but it was a shock (all in one day and that). But my story isn't a good one, I went downhill a long way.

Sorry to hear that.

Well, I'm hanging in there, dealing with it all. Some has fallen away, some increased but it is all being handled.

Yusecki · 09-12-2004

If it helps I'm starting on a road back up now

Nearly three years later but better late than never

Teens are tough years- I can't wait to get out of them and then maybe things will calm down a wee bit!!!

BlodoPKNZ · 09-12-2004

Id hate to see people feel sorry for me or my life. Dunno why. Well good luck with all those things Yuneek.

And i thought my city is a nutcase...