21 years

Posted 05-13-2009 at 07:19 PM by MoodsR4Cattle

Twenty One years ago today I stood in front of Judge Ann Lacy Johns in Nashville's Criminal Court and be came a wife. That May 13th fell on a Friday. I never wanted that massively expensive "biggest day of my life" kind of wedding - and my husband has been eternally grateful. I watched both of my older sisters go from happy, loving post-college giggly girls into stark raving, post-apocalyptic mutant yetis over their weddings. I firmly believe in learning from others mistakes.

So here I am 21 years later. Am I happy? I think so. Well, most of the time. I wouldn't say it's bliss, but it's not exactly hell either, although there have been a couple brief ventures into the eternal fires - but there have also been good times. Most of the time it's, what? It's just what it is. It's marriage.

When I was young I swore I would never get married and I would absolutely never have children. I also swore that I'd never get involved with a musician - especially one in my band - didn't keep that promise either. Sometimes we just don't really know what we want. But as it turns out, having children is wonderful. Being married is pretty good too - even if it is to a musician that was in my band.

So here's to my first 21 years of marriage. May we survive 21 more.

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	Hi Moods, isn't it funny how we end up doing what we never thought we would do? I'll never do that, I'll never be like that, I'll never....... ****. It happens over and over again. Oh well I wish you a happy anniversary And I hope you both continue to make music together for many more years.
	Posted 05-13-2009 at 08:12 PM by kokopedal

	Happy anniversary, Moods! 21 years is pretty good going - a lot of modern marriages don't last 21 weeks. A couple of weeks ago my parents celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary: that's something to aim for!
	Posted 05-14-2009 at 12:40 AM by Tamlin

	Thanks Koko & Tamlin. I wish I had said, "I never want to be independently wealthy". Congratulations to your parents, 60 years is quite a milestone!
	Posted 05-14-2009 at 01:48 PM by MoodsR4Cattle

Hello, Moods. (May I be that informal?)

I very much enjoyed reading your post concerning your first 21 years of marriage. It is a wonderful adventure knowing that you are spending your life with your soulmate. My wife, Christine, and I celebrated 35 years of marriage this past March. I look forward to the next 35 years.

If could be allowed to paraphrase actress Helen Shaw from the Steve Martin movie "Parenthood", I'd much rather enjoy the suprises, fears and excitments of the ups and downs of life's roller coaster than experience the dull boredom of a merry-go-round life.

Congratulations.

Regards,

Gary (Vandy)

Posted 05-14-2009 at 05:09 PM by Vandy Vandy is offline

	Right you are, Gary. When you reach a high spot your ride it as long as you can with your arms in the air. When you hit bottom, you know it can only get better. Congrats on your 35 years!
	Posted 05-15-2009 at 12:57 AM by MoodsR4Cattle

A bit late here but Congrats to all those anniversaries. We made 26yrs in July. It is amazing that that many years have passed by so quickly. I have been looking at pictures from those beginning years and you have to wonder who those young people are because we are not the same people now. My son now has friends his age getting married and he and his girlfriend talk about it. (Ok she talks and he grumbles-ha ha) They look so young you can't help but think they are to young to get married. Yet many of us started there.

Posted 08-10-2009 at 08:18 PM by Nancy Wett Nancy Wett is offline

	Thanks, Nancy, and congrats to your 26 years! My daughter has been digging through the old photos and having a good laugh on our behalf. "Dad looked like a dork, what did you see in him?" When you look for a man, don't look with your eyes, I tell her. "Mom! You used to be skinny!" Yeah, thanks for pointing that out.
	Posted 08-11-2009 at 04:30 AM by MoodsR4Cattle